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November 14, 2006
Answers To Some Frequently-Asked Questions About My Forthcoming Nuptials
Ever since announcing on Sunday that Elaine and I are going to be tyin' the knot, my phone and e-mail traffic has, shall we say, increased. I've been flattered (and gratified!) by all the friends and family who have called with congratulations and questions ... but it's also occurred to me that I'm having the same basic conversation, over and over again.
(Which I don't mind, really - Lane, as you might imagine, is a fave topic of mine.)
Anyhow, in the interests of Setting The Record Straight on a few things, I hereby present a (brief) list of answers to some of the questions I've been getting a lot over the last 48 hours.
- No, we don't have a date for the wedding yet. We're still trying to figure out exactly what we want to do, and the timing and stuff will come later.
- (Probably Summer 2007.)
- Richard has agreed to be my best man.
- My early, tentative suggestion of a Disney wedding was swiftly - but sweetly - overruled. (Khan has promised to go to bat with Elaine on my behalf - you're a pal, man!)
- Regardless of where the wedding winds up being held, there will absolutely, positively, be a big-ass party at some point.
- (If you are reading this blog, your chances of snagging an invitation to said party are better than those of the general population.)
- Despite rumors to the contrary, I am not planning to perform my own wedding ceremony using a mirror or something (which, if you think about it, would have been both narcissistic and creepy - ick). Snake and Cintra have both volunteered (you guys rock!), Allie suggested John Kauffman (he's done a few already), and Chris Meyer's name has been floated from a few quarters (both because I did his wedding - symmetry! - and because he rocked the house at Marnie's wedding earlier this month).
- With respect to the proposal - I was unable to secure a restaurant that could hold a Mariachi band, had a working Jumbotron and an unobstructed view of where the skywriting would appear, so I had to settle for something a little less-dramatic: a spur-of-the-moment proposal on 15th Avenue.
- (It really wasn't as 'spur-of-the-moment' as it might sound; actually, we'd been talking pretty intensively about this for a few weeks now.)
- The first six words out of her mouth: "DAMMIT! You beat me to it!"
- This is, admittedly, a positive sign, but when you're asking a woman to spend the rest of her life with you, you hope for something a little less directional, and a little more specific. When I pointed this out to her, she blushed and said, "Yes." (And then repeated it 10^6 times.)
- There was no ring at the time of the question-popping. I may not know much about women, but one thing I do know is that there are some categories of things I should not, under any circumstances, shop for on her behalf. Engagement rings don't just fall in to this category, they define it.
- (As it happens, she insisted on getting me a ring if I was getting her one. I love this girl.)
- We ran errands on Sunday, and, as luck would have it, found ourselves participating in one of the most pleasant ring-shopping experiences I could have ever envisioned. Greenlake Jewelry Works is putting together a custom number for each of us. We'll each wear ours until the ceremony, then just get 'em cleaned and engraved right beforehand.
- With respect to the vows, it's still unclear as to whether or not they will expressly stipulate that I cannot have a mustache. Elaine has been pretty clear about the 'no mustache' clause in our dating life, but I'm not at all certain if she wants it in writing. (And, candidly, this may be a moot point, as my ability to even grow a mustache has never been proven.)
- (Not that I even want one.)
- (Stupid mustache.)
- Yes, I've been doing some reading about this "dowry" business, but I must say I'm not entirely sure how it works. Apparently, I'm supposed to get chickens or cows or pigs, or something? (Elaine's kinda evasive on this one.)
- Oh, and Elaine's brother Stan mentioned that it's an "ancient Chinese tradition" that I buy him a Rolex, as the new brother-in-law. This sounds fishy to me. Anyone got guidance on this?
- I have all kinds of snappy reasons why we didn't get engaged in Paris, but the simple fact is that ... I'm slow.
- Yes, we're really, stupidly, deliriously happy.
I think that about covers all the big categories. Both Elaine and I want to send big, big love and kisses to Keith and Angela Vaitkus, without whose dinner party (and ever-so-gentle nudging) we never would have met. (We owe you guys.)
Posted by Gavin Shearer at November 14, 2006 9:56 PM. Posted to Misc.
Congratulations to both of you. What marvelous news to hear.
p.s. Loved, loved, loved my Disney wedding!
Posted by: Christine at November 14, 2006 10:56 PM
Congratulations you two. And, please let Stan know that while I'm not aware of the ancient Chinese tradition there is the long standing Norwegian tradition where the brides family buys the groom's father a new motorcycle. :-)
Love you both, dad
Posted by: rod shearer at November 15, 2006 10:43 AM
Congrats congrats CONGRATS!! I'm so happy for you two!! Good thing I gave her the bouquet...
We had Gary's wedding band done at Greenlake, and they were wonderfully kind and attentive. Also, they're like two blocks from our house- you should come visit!
Posted by: Marnie at November 20, 2006 10:50 AM
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